Thank You. Do you say and hear it enough?

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Thank you.

I would like to share to you about the importance of praise, admiration and thank you, and having it be specific and genuine. And as brief as the opening line, so shall this post  also be  like. 

And the way I got interested in this was, I noticed in myself, when I was growing up, and until about a few years ago, that I would want to say thank you to someone, I would want to praise them, I would want to take in their praise of me and I’d just stop it. And I asked myself, why? I felt shy, I felt embarrassed, the least awkward. And then my question became, am I the only one who does this?  

 It has been a recurring theme in so many movies and reality tv shows that discuss the thing that causes stress, anxiety, depression and even addiction to people is the issue that comes down to something as simple as, their core wound is their father died without ever saying he’s proud of them. But then, they hear from all the family and friends that the father told everybody else that he was proud of him, but he never told the son. It’s because he didn’t know that his son needed to hear it. 

So my question is, why don’t we ask for the things that we need? I know a gentleman, married for 30 years, who’s longing to hear his wife say, “Thank you for being the breadwinner, so I can stay home with the kids,” but won’t ask. I know a woman who’s good at this. She, once a week, meets with her husband and says, “I’d really like you to thank me for all these things I did in the house and with the family.” And he goes, “Oh, this is great, this is great.” And praise really does have to be genuine, but she takes responsibility for that.

So, the question is, why was I blocking it? Why were other people blocking it? Why can I say, “I’ll have my burger with some fries and sundae on the side, I need size nine shoes, etc.” but I won’t say, “Would you appreciate or praise me this way?” 

So, I’m going to challenge us all. Like my wife has been to me the past years of our married life by being vocal and direct in saying what she truly needed to hear from me — I want you to be honest about the praise that you need to hear. What do you need to hear? Go home to your wife — go ask her, what does she need? Go home to your husband — what does he need? Go home to those special people in your life — what do they need. Go home and ask those questions, and then help the people around you. 

I think it’s simple. And why should we care about this? We talk about world peace. How can we have world peace with different cultures, different languages? I think it starts household by household, under the same roof. So, let’s make it right in our own backyard. 

To all of you who happen to read this simple post — I want to say Thank You. And maybe somebody’s never said that to you, by being a father, mother, husband, wife, brother, sister, friends to your loved ones in the purest sense of those words,  you’ve already done a really, really good job. 

And for that, Thank you.

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Daily dose of “G”

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When I was younger, I believed one should feel grateful in order to give thanks. To do anything else seemed somehow dishonest or fake — a kind of “preposterously ridiculous” insincerity that one should reject. Considering the fact that we are in a universe that seemed to hurt for no reason and living in a world where children die of hunger every day, it just doesn’t make sense. When it comes to being grateful and thankful, it’s best to be emotionally authentic, right? Wrong. Building the best life does not require fealty to feelings in the name of authenticity, but rather rebelling against negative impulses and acting right even when we don’t feel like it. In a nutshell, acting grateful can actually make you grateful.

Being grateful is a choice. Some make the mistake of waiting to feel grateful rather than choosing to be grateful. Today, you are alive. You have the opportunity to enjoy your abundance, right your wrongs, cling to your hopes, rekindle your dreams or re-live your passions. You and me, we are alive and so be grateful we must and truly live.

The gift of life is the best gift we’re given every single day.

A humble Notice:

Dearest awesome WordPress friends:

Today, I made one radical move. You’re wrong if you’re thinking it was to change the world or stuff like that. I just changed my blog title and icon.

From this:

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To this:

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Just a note: Just in case you’re confused – that’s not me in the picture. I’m much more good-looking than that one! Hahaha

The reason behind in changing blog title? Well, not really of the importance. All throughout my tremendously challenging  blogging experience I [sort of, just a bit] found my “groove” on writing. Needless to say, I started this blog from humble beginnings and until now I haven’t improved much, as you would notice, hahaha. Nonetheless, in celebration  to all those good people who did have the “kindness” of heart to believe in what I write, as well as to those who mistakenly clicked the “follow” button just because of the deceptively “good-natured” appeal of my previous blog (Simply Writing), I have decided to upgrade my blog so as to have sort of coherence to my upcoming posts.

As the title suggests, mostly of my future blogs will now be  dealing about thoughts (predominantly quotes) and my personal take on them. I love writing quotes as much as reading them. I’m always haunted by million dollar thoughts usually at 4 am [I know most of you too], if only I could convert them into cash! Haha. I have a list of all of them as I  always readily keep a notepad beside our bed to write down to when they bothered me. Of course, prayerfully, for future write ups.

To remain true to the purpose and “spirit” of my previous blog, I will still write about my personal views on subject matters which I deem important and worth wasting your [my readers] precious time. 😉

Thank you guys for persistently joining Simply Writing on its journey these past couple of months or so. May you still embark with me as Thought Avenue takes over the wheel for the coming days. May the Almighty bless us all!

I love you all! You’re all awesome!

Eternally grateful,

Andrei

 

To:Whoever YOU are

Surfing the net, browsing on anything worth reading to  pass the time, I chance to read a very heartwarming letter from an unnamed person  written for an unknown friend about a one life-changing acquaintance. A number of write-ups were subsequently written refuting the  veracity of the letter. However, to me, true or not, or just a fictitious work  of  a hopeless romantic, this work is still amazing! Let alone the fact that the author has courageously expressed his deep insatiable longing and gratefulness to the one woman who saved and changed his life!

Sometimes, when it comes to LOVE, people become poets – hiding and sugarcoating their words into prose and measures so sweet to the heart, satisfying the hunger of emotions that no amount of plain and direct to the point words could satisfy.

True or not, this is a work written and perfected from the heart. You be the judge.

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