What shapes you?

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Is it your family background or parental influence that is shaping your life, molding your conduct and ultimately determining who you are turning out to be? Or is it your educational and academic experiences that are determining this result? Is it how “street smart” you are that is defining your success in life? Could it be the genes you were born with or your physical characteristics? Maybe it’s simply a matter of luck that is framing the person you are becoming and what you are accomplishing with your life.

Certainly, many of these factors have had an influence on your life. Without question, they can be important as far as your life’s ultimate destination is concerned. However, there is one thing that is playing the primary role in determining the outcome of your life. 

What is it? 

In spite of the importance of this question, many of us don’t give much serious thought to the answer. We just go with the flow and let our lives work out in their own way. Granted, it’s much easier to just let life happen and not be personally responsible for the actual results.

However, life doesn’t just happen. Instead,our lives are defined by the choices we make. Some of these choices are ours, and some choices are made by other people, and we just accept those decisions and follow along. 

Stop and think about it…

You, or someone around you, chooses what the next thought, the next comment or activity will be. Whether you elect to let someone make these choices for you – or you make the choices yourself – you develop as an individual according to the choices that guide or influence your life.

But, you say…don’t our general circumstances have a lot to do with it?

Granted, we came into this world with pre-existing conditions: where we were born, the color of our skin, our basic physical characteristics and the guidance we received in early childhood. These are all factors that helped to form us in some way.

However, at a very early age, our choices start to override these factors. If you will, allow me to simplify it this way: The 3-year-old little girl makes her choice concerning which doll she will take to bed at night. Boys and girls, 7 and 8-years old, choose what they will do after school and who their friends will be. The 12-year-old decides how long he will study, which sports he will play and what he will do in his spare time. By the time we are 15 or 16-years old, each of us has almost total control over what we think, what we say and what we do. Beyond our very early years, it is our personal choices that determine how we treat other people, the level of education we attain, who we marry, what we do in our career and what we ultimately achieve with our lives.

So, one fact of life that we all need to acknowledge is this: regardless of our initial circumstances, we define our lives through the choices we make. Some of these choices we make on our own and others by simply going along with the choices of others. In either event, you are the one who decides.  

You can choose to be polite or be indifferent. You can choose to study or go play with your friends. You can choose to work hard or just get by. You can choose what you want to do with your life or just accept whatever comes your way. These, and hundreds of other choices, define you as an individual and determine the life experience you will have.

Without question, you are a unique, one-of-a-kind combination of physical characteristics, personal interests and emotional feelings that collectively define you as an individual.  However, it’s not this unique package that determines the enjoyment and effectiveness of your life, but how you choose to use it. Therefore, you must learn to understand the role that choices play in defining your life, if you want to fully develop the life you have been given.

(c) 2016 viewpointsofandrei.com

 

 

9 thoughts on “What shapes you?

  1. Your choices determine your life!
    “However, it’s not this unique package that determines the enjoyment and effectiveness of your life, but how you choose to use it. Therefore, you must learn to understand the role that choices play in defining your life, if you want to fully develop the life you have been given.” loved these last two sentences. Yes, your life and choices rest in your hands!

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    1. Exactly! Thank you, Pranitha! Readers and friends just like you who really take time to read posts bring so much joy in my heart. Knowing that somehow my posts are making [even just a little bit of] impact in other people’s lives fulfills me as a writer.
      Cheers to us all to really try our best to offer small packages of encouragement in this crazy world! Cheers to you to, Pranitha and to thewriterwomanblog!

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      1. That is so very sweet, Andrei! Is it not wonderful to know that your voice is being heard and appreciated by those who genuinely read a piece that has taken more than the two or maximum five minutes it takes to read them. I have been blogging for six months now and I am glad to have gathered a ‘virtual’ friend circle who loyally read my work. Your work, I must admit, however, deserves the kind of attention it is getting. Keep them coming, Andrei. Cheers to you too!

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  2. “Without question, you are a unique, one-of-a-kind combination of physical characteristics, personal interests and emotional feelings that collectively define you as an individual.  However, it’s not this unique package that determines the enjoyment and effectiveness of your life, but how you choose to use it. Therefore, you must learn to understand the role that choices play in defining your life, if you want to fully develop the life you have been given.”

    LOVE this last paragraph. Thank you for making the choice to write this post as it is eye opening and I definitely agree that our choices shape us and also, our lack of choices which in themselves are choices shape us too. Life is just a series of choices and I agree that while nature and environment play a role they can be overridden by our ability to make choices.

    I also love how you chose to write this post by posing questions and answering them with your thoughts, it made it very intriguing to read.

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    1. Thank you for the generous comment and feedback 🙂 Glad that you loved my post. I visited your site and I love your posts too! I’ve noticed we have a similarity in thinking and writing style. I’m truly delighted to find like-minded writers in this community!
      Keep it up! Your posts are great! 😃

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